Are you Paying Attention to Signs and Synchronicities?

Do you sometimes wonder if God is trying to send you messages?  Do things happen in your life and you wonder if you are supposed to pay attention to a deeper meaning of what’s going on right in front of you?

Time to pay attention.

When you become more conscious of your life, through intentions or reflections, you will see how the divine messages come to you.  Conscious awareness to the signs and synchronicities that show up in your life can be an eye opener and not just a coincidence.

It took me while, and when I began to pay attention, I was amazed.

My personal journey of conscious awareness began about seven years ago when I was in the midst of what I call my mid-life reflection.  I took a look at my life and asked myself if I was happy.  I could see the chaos and dysfunction in me and around me.  I stopped blaming others for my unhappiness, took responsibility for it and dove head first into the discovery and healing of me.

As soon as I made the shift to conscious awareness, I could finally see my divine path of happiness right in front of me.

I paid attention to my energy and how I felt in the presence of other people.  I learned to let go of those relationships that drained my energy.  I was then guided to more positive and loving relationships in my personal and professional life.  Those relationships are the ones that fueled my positive energy.

When I would ask God for a sign to guide me, it would be shown.  Not necessarily in my timing, but in divine timing. 

This was a sign given to me by a fellow USM student. She picked me out of the crowd and gave it to me. It surely was an obvious sign for me!

I had to be patient and trust that I would be guided.  Sometimes the sign would clearly indicate where I was NOT supposed to be.  Then I would change paths instead of trying to force my will on something that was not meant to be.

When you follow the signs that bring you to your divine path, life actually becomes more peaceful and joyful.

When you take the time to reflect on your life, pay close attention to what manifests in your life.  Here are my simple take away tips for you to follow your divine path:

1.      Take quiet time to pray and meditate each morning and set your intentions for your day, not your to-do list, but intentions of how you want to be.

2.      Ask God (or whatever your higher power might be) to show you signs of your divine path.

3.      At the end of each day, take time to reflect and review what messages you may have been shown.

4.      Let go of any negative attitudes, actions and behaviors that no longer serve you or your path.

5.      Acknowledge your gratitude for all the goodness and lessons in your life.

I challenge you to move into these action steps to discover more about your divine path. Begin today!

If you have already experienced the divinity of signs and synchronicities in your life, I’d LOVE to hear about them!  Share here in the comment section below.  If you love this post and think that it would be helpful to your peeps, please share it.  Enjoy your journey!!

 

Much love and light,

Your Energy. Are you Grounded or Scattered?

Ever feel like your energy is scattered in too many directions?  Ever feel like you have your energy in so many places that you are not effective at ANYTHING?

You are not alone in feeling this way.  Welcome to my world this past week! 

I spent most of the month of July focusing my energy on renewal and healing.  After an amazing visit to Miraval Resort, and then a week at the University of Santa Monica, assisting with one of their programs in Spiritual Psychology,  I felt renewed, recharged and ready to focus my energy on my expansion of my fall workshops.

Enter a family crisis.  Whoa, the whole centered piece went out the window!  I could tell each and every time I was giving away more and more of my energy.

I felt very ungrounded and scattered.

I lost track of time during the day.  I found myself looking at my laptop for long stretches and not getting anything done. I was at the beck and call of others who needed me.

If that wasn’t enough signs of  being scattered, I had a few minor mishaps.  On Tuesday I dropped a metal bar on my foot, causing much swelling and bruising.  On Saturday, I didn’t unclip at a stop on a bike ride and fell off my bike and landed into the post of a street sign, severely bruising my bicep muscle. Ouch!  Oh the signs were all there that I was NOT GROUNDED.  And I have the bruises to show for it!

Time for me to regroup and refocus my energy back to ME. 

Grounding can bring conscious awareness to your self and your body.   It can provide you with the strong anchor to center you again if you are ungrounded.

I quickly followed the steps that I suggest to my clients to regain their center.  Here are the steps I followed and are really very easy:

1.   Slow down. Find quiet meditative time and go inside and still your mind.

2.  Visualize yourself connecting to Mother Earth.

3.  Go barefoot and feel the ground, dirt and/or grass.

4.  Drink lots of water.

5.  Listen to your heart about where your energy should be focused.

6.  Say NO to things that don’t serve you or your well being.

7.  Let go of any negative energy and/or upsets with a quiet Free Form Writing session.

8.  Acknowledge your boundaries and honor them at all times.

Regaining your focus on YOU will bring you back to your center.  When you are feeling a bit out of sorts, for whatever reason, use these steps to assist you.  Life happens to all of us and it’s good to know that a few simple steps can help you shift to bring calmness and balance back into your life.

I’m sure you’ve had a time where you were scattered and felt the need to be grounded.   I’d love to hear from you and what works for you when you feel this way!

If you like this article, I’d love for you to share it and like it on FB and Twitter, so that it can help someone you love find that calmness and balance for themselves!

Much love and light,

 

5 Easy Peasy Steps to Stop Your Stinking Thinking: For Good!

Do you every find yourself weighted down with the doomsday, “What ifs?”  Do your negative thoughts escalate and you find yourself in a space that is totally awful and really….stinking? Does it stop you dead in your tracks of any positive movement in your life?  It has been a reality for me (in the past) and I would find myself overwhelmed and then my brain would run in upset overdrive!

Not a good feeling.

I have great news for you if you’ve had this happen to you. You can change your thoughts….and change your life!  Dr. Wayne Dyer said it best.  You have the power to recognize what your brain is doing to you, stop and shift your thoughts from self defeating to become self empowering.

It is your choice and really pretty easy once you are conscious of your attitude, actions and behaviors to make the shift.  Here are the easy steps you can follow to guide you to find freedom from the suffering of stinking thinking:

1.  Recognize that your mind is in the negative mode.

Stop and acknowledge where you are in the present moment in your mind, body and heart.  Feel what the negative pattern is doing to you and where it can take you.

2.  Relax and take some cleansing breaths.

Close your eyes and just breathe.  Allow yourself to take some deep cleansing breaths.  Visualize the negative thought pattern leaving you when you exhale.

3.  Let go of the negative thought and release it from your consciousness.

Then breathe in the LIGHT when you inhale.  Cleanse your consciousness with the light.  Allow yourself to release the thought patterns with the power of your breath.

4.  Create a loving and supportive thought and message to yourself.

Take the negative thought and shift it 180 degrees the other way.  If the thought is, “Those idiots in traffic piss me off! They are so stupid!”  Change your thought to, “I don’t know what is happening in the life of those motorists, and I won’t give up my energy to them.  I will release them from thoughts and support myself with positive loving thoughts.  I will drive in traffic with grace and ease”

5.  Keep repeating the new loving, supportive thought as often as needed.

Whatever your new thought shift message is, keep repeating it to yourself.  As you keep saying it (even if you don’t believe it at first!) it gains more power and energy in your consciousness.  Your old thought pattern will dissolve itself…..for GOOD!

HERE IS THEY KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS….. You have to WANT to change your stinking thinking…for your benefit.  Not for your spouse, boss, parents or anyone for that matter.  YOU have to WANT the change in your life.

Use these steps the next time you feel the negative nudging coming on.  The more you practice these steps and WANT the change; you will see and feel a world of difference the level of peace in happiness in your life.

I’d love to hear from you about what helps you when you aren’t feeling so positive.  List them in the comments below to share.  If you felt that these steps are valuable, please share them with your community on any of the buttons below! Thanks!

Much love + light,

Getting Things Done: Vision + Action = Completion

Do you have a creative project inside you waiting to be born?  Or perhaps you have a difficult phone call to make?

Either of these situations, one positive and one negative, may be weighing on your mind and heart.  Both situations can use your valuable energy. Is that where you really want to spend your energy….in the “not done yet” or “I’ll get to it later” pile in your head? So here is my simple advice regarding getting things done……..

JUST DO IT!!!

Nike says it best, just do it.

Don’t ponder or procrastinate any more.

Move into action.

Move it to the top of your list.

Just do it.

See yourself already there.

If you have a project or dream you are visioning, see yourself already there.  Picture it complete in your mind’s eye.  Feel the excitement inside you, the satisfaction and joy of completion.  Now reverse engineer and work your steps backwards.  Break it into small doable steps and create your action plan. You may not have everything figured out yet, that’s OK, just TAKE THAT FIRST STEP.

I love the Fire Starter Sessions!

I did this exercise a few weeks ago when I was reading, The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte.  I had a creative project I had been dreaming about for the last 6 months, but kept it as a dream because I hadn’t move it into action.  Then I MOVED into action after reading Danielle’s book, and the project just took off!! (P.S. – you will see the end result in a few months!)

Try these steps even with the tough stuff.

If your to-do is challenging like facing a difficult relative or employee, again vision yourself in a respectful conversation that keeps all parties above board. Set your intention of how you want the conversation to be.  And then….JUST DO IT.

Yep, I too had that dreaded phone call to make. What was I so afraid of?  Why was I holding back?  I used the same process of visioning it positive, and that’s exactly how it showed up. What a relief for both of us as the wall came down.

Just take that first step.

Taking the first step and breaking through your fears of beginning is all you need to do, and then…take the next step…and the next step….you get it.  Every step gets you closer to completion and the sense of accomplishment and the joy it will bring you.

OK, now it’s your turn. I’d love to have you share how you took a dream (or challenge) and moved it into action. What steps did you take that moved you forward?  And if you felt like this blog was valuable to you, please share it with your peeps with the buttons below!

Dealing with Airtime Hogs: Tips for Better Communication With Non Listeners

During my workshop this past weekend, I had questions about how to have a meaningful conversation with those that talk non-stop.  One woman, Kathy, cleverly referred to them as “airtime hogs” because that is, in fact, what they do!

You can’t get a get a WORD in edgewise!

Here are some valuable tips to help you have a healthy dialog (yes, that means 2 people!) with those who may not even realize how they can overwhelm a conversation.

 

Step 1 – As the conversation begins, LET THEM KNOW that you really want to understand them and you may reflect back information, just to make sure you got it right.

Step 2FOCUS your attention on the content of what they are saying. Listen for the deeper meaning of what they are saying.

Step 3 – REPEAT what they have shared in segment as the conversation moves along.  Allow them to create forced pauses in the dialog.

Step 4 – FIND A GOLDEN NUGGET in what they are saying and PRAISE them.  We can all use some affirmation!

Own your personal power (NOT ego!) as you converse.  When you can take an active role in directing the conversation, AND LISTEN, you will surely see the difference.  You be the role model of open and meaningful conversations!

And for those of YOU WHO ARE AIRTIME HOGS……

…..learn to stop and listen to the the people you are in a conversation with.  You can acknowledge your behavior and change yourself in YOUR NEXT CONVERSATION!!

I hope you have found these suggestions to be valuable and I would LOVE to hear from you!! Leave a comment below…and share it…let me know what you think!

 

When Lessons Present Themselves: Shifting from Upset to Equanimity

Yesterday was a day for lessons to be learned.  I wouldn’t have guessed it when I began the day, but by the end of the evening, I could see that I was being tested.  And by this morning I could see that the universe was truly speaking to me loud and clear!  I acknowledged my upset, was able to process it, and then find a place of equanimity in each situation I was presented with.

Here are the scenarios.  Midday I had to return to my former employer to drop off some important paperwork.  Was I fearful to go to this location after 2 years and painful memories? YES!  Did I want someone else to do this for me? YES!  Did I have the courage to do it anyways? YES!  Was I ok afterwards? YES!

LESSON:  Embrace my power and do what might be uncomfortable. Don’t ask anyone to do what I can do myself.

Evening time, after spending five hours preparing for out of town relatives to come over for a lovely dinner.  The table was set with my fine china and my crystal glasses.  Even Martha Stewart would have been impressed with my table decor!  During dinner, someone drops and breaks one of the dinner plates!  Ouch!  It’s OK, it is replaceable and everyone was OK.  Not even 20 minutes later, one of the crystal glasses is knocked over and shatters!  Ouch! It’s OK, its replaceable and it made the plate crasher not feel so bad.   Was I upset because my plate and glass were broken by other people? YES, but for just a second. The truth is that they are replaceable.

LESSON:  Possessions are just stuff and can be replaced.  I looked around at the loving family who we were sharing a meal with and saw that they were more important than any stuff!

And the last lesson for this whirlwind of 24 hours.  I go outside to our beautiful picturesque backyard that my husband and I spent hours trimming and planting to prepare for the dinner. Our beautiful fig vine that has enveloped the entire north side of the house was dead where it had grown on our patio ceiling.  My husband had accidently clipped a main artery to this beautiful piece of nature art.  Oh no, not the vine!  Was I upset, YES, and only for a second.  I quickly shifted to the realization that it is just a plant and, like a bad haircut,  it will grow back maybe even more beautiful.

LESSON:  In our efforts to rid of overgrowth and debris, we let go of something we hadn’t intended to.  We let it go of it anyways and will focus on the future growth.  

How did I shift from upset to equanimity in each situation?

1.  I acknowledged my feelings of upset.  It is a normal human reaction.  

2.  I rose above the situation and saw it with out any ego attachment that would make someone wrong.

3.  I saw the facts and truth in the situation.

4.  I looked towards my future actions that I would need to do.

5.  In my heart, I forgave myself for any judgments I may have had towards others or myself.

6.  I let it go.

7.  I looked for the lesson in each situation and kept that in my heart.

Three different times in a 24 hour period my emotions were triggered.  First with fear, then with upset (x 2).  Each time, I acknowledged my feelings, processed them in a healthy way and looked for the lesson in each situation.  Equanimity is finding that place of emotional balance that helps me keep the peace inside of me.  I find that with each lesson I can find that place of equanimity quicker each time, despite what challenges my every day life offers me.

Next time you find yourself in and an emotional state, try following the steps listed above and you too will find that peace inside of you.

 

A Success Story: The Personal Evolution of a Friend

When the student is ready, the teacher appears.  I had the honor of watching her evolve, month by month.  Embracing each new lesson she had the courage to take an honest look inside herself.  And she chose to change.

I would not have guessed that this charming woman 20 years my senior would be such a good friend when I met her 19 years ago. She was closer to my Mom’s age and I even introduced them thinking they would have more in common.  But much to my surprise, my friend felt more connected to me and my young energy than my Mom.  That was when I confirmed that my friend Carolyn was truly a young spirit deep inside.

We had connected throughout the years and she even began attending the earliest version of my self improvement workshops in 2005.  Carolyn was open to learning and growing, but I could also see that she was still feeling the pain of some emotional trauma a few years before.  And she was there to learn and heal.

However, I could see the woundedness deep within her.  Her trauma was deep and lasting. Yet as time had passed her anger and upset were not as present, but I could see there were still some lingering emotions.

As she began attending my Heartfelt Learning Workshops in January 2011, she was right there to support a new area of my consulting practice.  But this was different.  These workshops presented Carolyn with material that made her think about herself.  She spent quality time looking inside herself and began to truly connect with the group who attended each month.

But what was different for Carolyn is that she was embracing the learning material each and every month.  She took the information to heart.  She spent the time between sessions observing herself and her behavior.  SHE TOOK THE MATERIAL SERIOUSLY!! 

She would be the first one to share her experiences from the prior month and had more questions.  She was discovering more about her triggers and upsets, and more importantly, how to process them and release them.  She embraced the lessons on forgiveness for herself and others.  She reframed old messages and beliefs into beautiful affirmations that supported her inner growth.

Each month she was releasing old emotional baggage that no longer served her.  She was making room for powerful positive energy to come into her life.  Every time I saw her, she was lighter and brighter.  She was using all the life skills tools she was learning and now they were a part of her everyday life.  She was evolving right before my eyes.  For someone who already had so much fun, lively spirit, others around her could see more sparkle and glow emanating from her.

From my observations of my dear friend, here are the steps she took to create her success in her personal evolution:

1.  She made a commitment to the learning.

2.  She took the quiet time to reflect on her thoughts, actions and behaviors.

3.  She lived the lessons and made them part of her everyday life.  She practiced the tools and used the resources

4.  She moved to a place of vulnerability with the group and felt safe enough to share, knowing that she would be loved and not judged.

4.  She shared (and continues to share) her new healthy way of being with her friends, family and clients as well.

5.  She loved (and continues to love) herself enough to invest the time in learning, healing and growing.

My friend Carolyn is truly an evolved woman and I have had the honor and privilege to witness her transformation.  She now shares herself differently with the world.  She sees the beauty and light inside herself and gives others permission to shine their light as well!

Love ya Mojo!!

 

Extreme Self Care: 10 Steps to an Exceptional YOU!

Are you wishy washy about the things you want to change in your life?  Do you just talk about “some day” you want to take care of yourself better?  Are you so busy that you are at the bottom of your “to do” list?  Do you not think you are “worthy” of the time and effort to spend taking care of all parts of your SELF?

If you answered Yes to any of these questions, and you are ready to make some serious changes in your life…..read on!   Remember that YOU are what you take to every relationship in your life. YOU are at the center of your life. YOU are the most important person in your life. You have been given the special gift of life….and your opportunity is to make it the best you can. When you start by taking your care seriously, everything else lines up to support you.  And in referencing “taking care of  you”, I am talking about all dimensions of your SELF.  Perhaps some levels you have never given any attention to.

Extreme Self Care is….

1..…caring for all dimensions of you: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual.

2……about taking a truthful and honest look at your current life.

3……about not beating yourself up by what you see.

4……accepting yourself exactly where you are.

5……about committing to small steps to nurture yourself EACH AND EVERY DAY.

6……about acknowledging yourself for each self nurturing action you take.

7……making you the most important project in your life.

8……continuing to make honorable and loving choices in your life that support YOU.

9……continuing to enhance your well being and live the balanced life of your dreams.

10….making these changes part of your new joy filled, healthy and balanced SELF.

Commit to YOU.  These are changes that only you can make.  Have the courage to step into your fear of change.  Embrace all your beauty and divinity and make YOU the best you can be.

EXTREME SELF CARE + LOVE =  EXCEPTIONAL YOU

Messages My Parents Didn’t Tell Me…….Creating a Belief From Watching Them

Your parents and authority figures had a powerful impact on your life and how your “Life Laws” were created.  Their impact didn’t even have to be words.  Your belief system and values may have been created by just watching your parent’s behavior… good or bad.

I had the privilege of facilitating a workshop this weekend about eliminating old messages and beliefs that can hold you back from living the life of your dreams. I was able to witness some deep reflection, awareness and healing among the participants. Each of them shared about an old message, some that were outdated and some that were so deeply ingrained in their psyche, they didn’t know if they could change it.

But the most powerful moment was when one of the participants shared how blessed her life has been because the message her mother told her, out loud and with her actions, was that she could be anything she wanted in her life.  She had a positive affirming mother, despite the challenges they went through in life.  Her mother told her good things about herself and demonstrated positive actions in her own life.   To see how successful this woman is today made sense.  She knew as a young child that she was loved, worthy and capable of anything she wanted in life.

Not everyone grew up that way, but you have the power to change those old messages or beliefs to be more affirming, loving and supportive in your life.  Simple messages like:

“I am worthy”

“I am lovable”

“I am beautiful inside and out”

“I deserve good things in my life”

“I live in gratitude and abundance”

“I deserve happiness in my life”

“I am enough”

You can take an old message, transmute it to a positive one and then create a lovely affirmation that supports your growth and upliftment.  Loving yourself with positive messages is food for your heart and soul.

What are your messages or beliefs?  What do you tell yourself?  Is it positive or negative?  Are you open and willing to change these messages if they no longer serve you?  Only you can give yourself the gift of self love, self worth and self honor.  Give yourself that gift today!