Why is it Scary and Empowering to be Vulnerable?

Somehow I knew it was time.  I knew the topic of the table top discussion at the networking meeting was about humbling moments as a leader.  Was it time to tell a piece of my humbling story?  Was it time to reveal this painful situation in my life?  Was this the right group to share with?  Was it safe to be so vulnerable?  In my heart I knew I had been protecting this part of me that was so hurt.  I could not have shared this experience a year ago without crying.

I knew in my heart that this was a healing opportunity for me.  To say it out loud and to show my humanness.  My heart was ready to share.  I took my wall down and shared my humbling experience with 7 other ladies.  Voice cracking and hands trembling….I did it.  I felt naked, raw and scared right afterwards.  Will they judge me as being weak for sharing?  As everyone continued to share, they too opened themselves up to the “power” of vulnerability.  As fearful as I was after I shared, I felt empowered, as I think they all did as well.  I felt like I let some fresh air to a wound that was healing.

It brought to light so much of a book I read this past year by Dr. Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfectionand a very profound excerpt from her book that resonated with me:

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it.  Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy….the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.  Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

I feel as though this experience was brought to me because it was time.  Divine timing none the less, and I feel blessed to be able to experience it and share it.  But somehow the experience of being vulnerable is a way for me to grow more courage muscles….and live more authentically in the heart centered space I choose to be in.

When was the last time you opened up and allowed yourself to be vulnerable? Did you feel the fear and power?  We all have challenges in our lives and when we face them with an open heart, that vulnerability is the key that allows our light to shine.  Shine on!!

Connecting to Your Heart….Really Simple Steps

For those of you whose brains are on 24/7 and you aren’t quite sure how you could connect with your heart, I have some very simple steps for you to follow.  You might say that you are so busy that you don’t have time to slow down to even connect with your heart.  Or you might even ask yourself, “What does my heart want to tell me?”  When you slow down enough and honor yourself with some quiet sacred space, you would be amazed what answers you get.

I’ve listed some easy steps to follow once you find that quiet space and time.  Try it for two minutes at first just to get the feel and then add one minute each week.  You will find some profound results.

1.  Find your quiet place and close your eyes.  Your brain will begin to produce slower alpha brain waves as you move into a relaxed, meditative state.

2.  Say your intentions out loud about your desire to connect with your heart, such as “My intention is to allow myself this quiet time to connect and listen to what my heart wants me to know.”

3.  Focus on your breath, in and out.  Imagine you are breathing in the light of spirit and on your exhale you are releasing anything that is no longer serving you.

4.  Once you feel the calmness, put your hand on your heart.  Move your energy to the center of your body in your heart chakra.  Feel the power of your heartbeat.

5.  In the quietness of this space, ask if there is something your heart or soul wants you to know.

6.  Listen for the answer.  Don’t rush, take your time, just embrace this space. This is the sacred space where you can hear the messages from your heart.  The answers may not show up during your session, but may come to you later in the form of a sign or synchronicity.

7. When you are complete and ready to open your eyes, feel the gratitude for connecting with this part of your SELF that wants you to listen.

8.  Repeat the steps and try to stay in this space just a bit longer each time.

Connecting with your heart and living life from a Heart Centered perspective can be very different if you are used to being driven by your brain.  Take the time to connect with the power and beauty of your heart and the results will astound you.



It has been six weeks since I began teaching my Heartfelt Learning Workshops Series sessions and what a joy it has been to share with such wonderful people!  The words I have listed above are what I had the privilege to experience happening inside of each and every participant.  Experiencing the openness of everyone to learn and watch the group connect each time we met, has touched my heart.

As I was teaching the group how to live life from a more open hearted perspective, I watched their hearts expand within themselves and with each other.  They learned to listen to themselves differently and were much more aware and in tuned to listen to others.  They even shared how much more aware they were of others in their lives who don’t listen!  I loved when one participant was listening to a sharing of another, and then they reflected back what they heard in front of the group, and then watched the entire group engage deeply into the heart centered listening process!

We shared what an ideal scene of what a healthy and whole person looks like.  Loving and honoring one’s SELF are the steps to that picture of healthiness and wholeness.  Here are a few statements we shared:

A Healthy and Whole Person….

…..has healthy boundaries with others in their life.

…..can give and receive love.

…..has their own voice.

…..can say NO as a complete sentence.

…..is available to see the truth.

…..has positive loving self thoughts.

…..accepts responsibility for their own upset.

…..trusts their own judgment.

The learning process allowed each participant to evaluate their life and explore where their energy drainers and fuelers were, and to create some action steps to find a better balance and care for themselves.  They created positive and loving affirmations about themselves to continue to see the goodness and beauty inside and create a practice to keep affirming those messages.

The greatest gift that the group experienced was that they learned to trust themselves and each other.  They felt safe enough to share from their hearts about their opportunities for learning and celebrating their successes.  The ah ha moments became more and more profound at each session.  I loved the last session when one lovely woman shared the activities she had done for the prior two weeks, and it was actually part of the material I was about to teach!  She had done some self reflection and was open and honest enough to go inside and take a look at her own heart.  She got it before she ever learned it!

It has been a blessing for me to share the wisdom of my heart.  Allowing others to share and expand their hearts with me has been my greatest gift of this teaching experience.  Living life from a more heart centered perspective can allow for more peace, compassion, joy, happiness and love in your life.