Dealing with Airtime Hogs: Tips for Better Communication With Non Listeners

During my workshop this past weekend, I had questions about how to have a meaningful conversation with those that talk non-stop.  One woman, Kathy, cleverly referred to them as “airtime hogs” because that is, in fact, what they do!

You can’t get a get a WORD in edgewise!

Here are some valuable tips to help you have a healthy dialog (yes, that means 2 people!) with those who may not even realize how they can overwhelm a conversation.


Step 1 – As the conversation begins, LET THEM KNOW that you really want to understand them and you may reflect back information, just to make sure you got it right.

Step 2FOCUS your attention on the content of what they are saying. Listen for the deeper meaning of what they are saying.

Step 3 – REPEAT what they have shared in segment as the conversation moves along.  Allow them to create forced pauses in the dialog.

Step 4 – FIND A GOLDEN NUGGET in what they are saying and PRAISE them.  We can all use some affirmation!

Own your personal power (NOT ego!) as you converse.  When you can take an active role in directing the conversation, AND LISTEN, you will surely see the difference.  You be the role model of open and meaningful conversations!

And for those of YOU WHO ARE AIRTIME HOGS……

…..learn to stop and listen to the the people you are in a conversation with.  You can acknowledge your behavior and change yourself in YOUR NEXT CONVERSATION!!

I hope you have found these suggestions to be valuable and I would LOVE to hear from you!! Leave a comment below…and share it…let me know what you think!



  1. Great video! I have a tendency to be an airtime hog yet getting way better due to my meditation practice of many years- honing my listening through my coaching and staying open and mindful whilst others are talking.

  2. Christine says:

    Thanks Yvonne, glad you liked my video! Good for you for the progress you’ve made with your listening skills. I’m sure you are an excellent connected listener and coach 🙂

  3. Air-time hogs – that’s a great description and thanks for writing about it. What can we do to encourage more “active listening” when we interact?

    • Christine says:

      Thanks Deborah for your comments! I would have to say that the best way to encourage more active listening with others is demonstrate it ourselves. When YOU shift into an active listening mode, you honor the other person and what they are sharing. Remember the quote from Ghandi, “be the change you want to see in the world.”

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