Speaking the Unspoken

SPEAKING THE UNSPOKEN.
How many conversations do you have in your head that you want to say to someone, but don’t.

You don’t want to hurt their feelings.pc-head
You don’t want to explode on them.
You want to be nice.

So you shut down. You keep your unspoken words inside.

Then every time you see them again, the thoughts come up again. Then you shut them down again.

These thoughts, unspoken words, are also attached to some feelings inside of you. So when you suppress the words, you also suppress the feelings.

Without my awareness, I had a few of these unspoken conversations running in my head and heart. I didn’t realize what they were doing inside of me.

Last week they all came bubbling up when I least expected and I had a breakdown. I found myself in tears. My body reflected it and I felt flu symptoms. In this tearful mess, I could see that something desperately needed my attention.

With the support of my loving husband, my mentor and my sacred sisters, they held space for me to inquire why this was happening.

What I discovered was that I had shut down my voice. I had kept these unspoken conversations to certain people in my life, running in my head and had suppressed the feelings attached to them.

So I gave myself the space of a Sunday afternoon and wrote the unspoken words to each person that I wanted to say.

Some messages were short and to the point.journaling
Some brought tears of sadness.
One message brought out my ANGER and DISGUST. It was 5 pages long and filled with cuss words.

Wow, what a release! Was I holding all of this in? No wonder it began leaking out of me.

I could see that from this exercise of writing my unspoken words, it allowed me to see if I needed to take the next step. Some needed a personal conversation, some needed nothing as this writing was enough.

But one needed a hand written truth letter that spoke from the deepest part of me. My truth. My voice. My feelings.

Vulnerable and raw, I wrote 3 versions of the letter and drove it to the post office yesterday.

My heart was racing as I opened the mailbox. Boom….let it go! Its out there now.

They might be pissed off when they read it. They might rip it up and laugh. They might burn it. I DON’T CARE WHAT THEY DO WITH IT.

This was my release of my unspoken words. This was me knowing my truth inside of me and finally stepping in to my fear and having it heard.

My breakdown and then breakthrough did not happen to me.
It happened FOR me.
It was time to release and heal.
It was in service to what miracles are awaiting me!
I now have some newfound energy and light inside of me!

Do you have some unspoken conversations inside of you?
Give yourself some time and space and ask yourself if there is something you want to say to someone else, but haven’t.

What is your truth? What does your voice want to say?

As I have moved through the power of this experience, I can see how important it is for me to share this with you.

Are you ready for your FREEDOM inside?

I would love to hear your feedback in how this post can support you in finding peace and freedom from your suffering. And as always, if you need some support with this, I invite you to reach out to me.
Much love,

 

 

 

 

What are Your Triggers?

What happens to you when you get triggered by something in your world?

Maybe it’s something as simple as a slow driver in traffic and you are late to work?

Or maybe it a negative comment from your Mother?

Or maybe something your partner did….or DIDN’T do?

Or maybe your boss pointed out something wrong with the project you put your heart and soul into?

All of these can be triggers for you, in turn causing an upset inside of you.

Then what happens? Rage, anger, bitterness and resentment? Suffering inside?

These are all normal human responses to your world.  However, you DO have choices that you can make between the stimulus and response of what is happening inside of you.

You can choose to:

  1. Explode your emotions, yell and scream, blame everyone and everything for your upset.
  2. Hide your upset, emotions and keep it all locked up inside.
  3. Feel your feelings. See what is the deeper level of the trigger. Take responsibility for your upset. Heal the wound inside of you.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
~Viktor E. Frankl

You DO have a choice.

I can share with you from personal experience, that #1 and #2 don’t resolve the suffering inside.  In the past, not knowing any better, I unconsciously choose the screaming response. It is not very attractive and it took much of my precious energy.

Then there was a period in my life where I thought that being quiet and keeping my anger inside and diffused was a better choice.  Repressing emotions, also not a good choice as it manifested into illness in my body.

Have you experienced the pain of an upset and unconsciously choose response #1 or #2?

If you want to find a resolution to your upset and bring peace to yourself, then response #3 is the best choice. However, it takes conscious awareness of what’s going on inside of you AND the willingness to take responsibility for your upset.

“Only you can take dominion over your consciousness.”~ Dr. Mary Hulnick

If, in the midst of the space between your stimulus and response of your trigger, you choose response #3, here are the steps I suggest you move through to find freedom from the suffering inside of yourself:

  1. Recognize the trigger and give yourself some space.
  2. Feel your feelings, angry, upset, mad….allow yourself to FEEL them.
  3. Take 100% responsibility for your upset.
  4. Rise above your life as an observer and see what is really happening.
  5. Look to see what the upset is REALLY about…then go deeper. The thing is never the thing.
  6. Move into self-forgiveness for any judgements you might have towards yourself and others.
  7. Now as you have released your judgments, you can see the truth in the situation.
  8. Repeat as necessary.

“Every time one person heals an issue, all of humanity evolves.” ~Dr. Ron Hulnick

You do have the power to heal your triggers and upsets. Peace and freedom are on the other side of the suffering.

nourish-your-soulMaybe you are dealing with a trigger and upset right now in your life.

Ask yourself how bad do you want to heal?

Are you ready to see the truth?

Are you ready to take responsibility for your own upset without blaming another person?

Are you ready heal your own suffering?

If you are ready, use these steps to begin your healing.

I would love to hear your feedback in how this post can support you in finding peace and freedom from your suffering. And as always, if you need some support with this, I invite you to reach out to me.

Much love,

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What can you do?

What can you do?

It seems like every day more chaos erupts in the world.

How does it make you feel? Angry, bitter, hateful? It might be easy to jump to these negative feelings.

But adding hate to hate does not solve the problem. And you can’t solve the world’s problems yourself.

What can you do in your world to make a difference?

First, you can send love and blessings to all the individuals connected with the violent situations. You can send this love and light to all concerned for their highest good.

Next, look to see where you might have chaos in your life. Where do you have judgements towards others?

Where do you create separation from others?

Then you can look to see if you are open to forgiving your judgments towards the other person or persons. This can be tricky as I suggest forgiving your judgments against the person, not forgiving the person.

This doesn’t condone their behavior, but it releases you from your suffering. This is your barrier to loving energy.

Then send love and light to the other person. They don’t even have to know. Have compassion for both of you. See the truth in whatever the situation might be.

Be the loving example.

I have asked myself this question recently, “What can I do?” I have taken a deep dive myself into what my chaos is. Yes, I still get triggered and upset at situations…I’m still human!

I easily found the person(s) whom I had judgements towards. I moved through the forgiveness process. I have sent the love. I actually send them love and light every day in my prayers.

What would it feel like for you to release your chaos?

Peaceful, free, expansive, open, and light.  I know because this is what I’m feeling now that I am in the process of healing the chaos in my heart.

What would the world be like if we all took responsibility for our chaos and took action to heal it?

This may only be an small step, yet the world is ready for many small steps of healing. This reminds me of the quote by my beloved mentor, Dr. Ron Hulnick from the University of Santa Monica;

vision1Every time one person resolves one issue, all of humanity evolves.”

I challenge you to take a look into your world. Maybe your chaos and judgment is towards another person, or maybe it is towards yourself.

How can you heal yourself and let it be part of the collective healing of humanity.

That’s what you can do. 

Sending you much love, light and healing,

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Asleep at the Wheel of Life

Is your life on autopilot? Do you move through the motions to make it through each day?

Do you get up, take care of your family, go to work, take care of everyone and everything at work, come home at the end of the day and take care of everyone and everything AGAIN…then crash at the end of the day? 

Does this sound familiar? You might be asleep at the wheel of life.asleep-at-the-wheel-commercial

Here are some other indicators that you might be asleep:

  • Everyone else comes first and you are last on your list.
  • You find yourself bitter, angry and resentful because no one helps you.
  • You keep doing more, hoping for happiness.
  • You “forget” about your self care.
  • You feel like life is passing you by.
  • You have no energy.
  • You feel like you are living a lie.

I know what it is like, because I was asleep at the wheel of my own life.

Not too long ago I was living the life I thought was planned out for me. I had my personal and professional life in order…or so I thought.

I made it look good on the outside with my smile and my mask of happiness. On the inside, I was lost and empty.

I didn’t see the dysfunction I was immersed in. I didn’t see the crazy behavior I was a part of. I didn’t see how unhealthy my choices were. I didn’t see that there were options to find peace and happiness. I was too afraid to look at my own life.

Have you ever felt this insanity too?

It took the 2×4 of crisis for me to slow down and take that deep honest look at my life. Once I began the process of waking up, I saw that the more I healed my inner world, then my outer world began to shift. After a decade of inner transformation myself, now I support women and men to wake up to their lives!

honor yourselfIt is time to wake up.

If you feel an inner calling to awaken to your life, the time is now!

I have a 5 step process that will support you:

  1. Slow down.  Create quiet time every day just for yourself and your inner reflection. This could be a morning meditation, prayer, journaling or all of the above.
  2. Become aware of your life. Pay attention to what disturbs your peace. What upsets you…and why? What brings you joy…and why? Be curious, without judgment, to all of your life.
  3. Choose what honors you and your highest good. In the space of awareness of your life, now you can make the choice to let go of the old behaviors, habits and patterns that don’t serve you. You can simultaneously choose to bring more joy and upliftment into your life.
  4. Take action. Every step you take in the awakening process can be exciting AND fear filled. Take action anyways! Taking action despite the fear is called courage. Take one step at a time to honor yourself. Feel the feelings before, during and after each action step. Resistance might show up and know that it is a normal process. Inquire inside about the resistance (which is usually fear) and continue taking action.
  5. Create support structures. Waking up to your life requires support. This can be family, friends, therapists, coaches, communities in addition to asking for support from God (Spirit, Universe, Creator, Source…whatever fits for you) and other spiritual resources.

A decade ago I couldn’t have guessed where I would be today in my life, relationships and career. Because of my own awakening to my life, I have created the life and work of my dreams! I continue to be keenly aware in my life and move to a place of peace much quicker than I may have in the past.

The more I continue to do my inner work, I can take my clients that that deep place of healing as well.

I feel so blessed to share my gifts to support others moving through their awakening. As they wake up, then they become the mentors and role models for others in their life.

As each one of us awakens, we expand the ripple effect of light and illumination to the world.

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If you feel like this is your time to wake up, I invite you to call me. I would love to support you and your awakening. The time is now!

Much love,

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I am here to be seen.

Have you ever felt like you wanted to be invisible so no one can see you? Where it is easier to blend into the woodwork and hide?

“I am here to be seen.”  I could hear those words coming from my own mouth, but my voice cracked and got real small.

One of the first activities Robert Holden shared with me and 87 other coaches this past July at the University of Santa Monica Soul-Centered Coaching Lab, was to partner with someone and say these words.  And their response was, “I see you.” Each morning we spent about 5 minutes partnering with different people to speak both of these messages and show that we were present and open to be seen.

Robert guided us each of our 5 days through this activity to begin our day of learning with him.

“I am here to be seen” and “I see you.”

Here is 7 year old Chrissy 🙂

After realizing how “small” my voice became, I focused and shifted my energy to be strong, confident and present. I felt a powerful shift inside myself. And yet……

…….this small voice was not to be ignored.  Whose small voice was this?  Whose voice was struggling with being seen?

It was my little girl. It was little Chrissy.  She was hesitant about being seen. Her belief was that if you are seen, then people will make fun of you.

With the help of my coach and doing some self-inquiries, I discovered that my sweet 7 year old experienced a little trauma that shut  her down and created a fear about “being seen.”

I remember being in the 2nd grade and our teacher was introducing us to oral reports. I was so excited about this experience that I raised my hand and said I wanted to go first the next day.

Right away I knew that I wanted to do a report on a flower that intrigued me.  I went home with so much energy inside to find out facts about this flower so I could share in my report.

So the next day, I was loaded with enthusiasm and excitement.

I was first to share and then sat down with a huge smile on my face.  However, after I listened to each report by the other students, my excitement diminished.

Everyone else’s reports were better than mine.  Mine was boring in comparison.

Yes, I compared their reports to mine and it was no longer special and exciting. I was embarrassed and ashamed of my work.

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Sweet little Chrissy 🙂

In my 7 year old mind, I compared my work to others and it wasn’t good enough.

In my 7 year old mind, I created separation.

In my 7 year old mind, the other kids were better and smarter than me.

I experienced comparison and then separation.

The message I created in my 7 year old mind was, “Don’t raise your hand, you will embarrass yourself; Your work isn’t as good at the other kids; It’s better to not be seen than be embarrassed”

This stuck with me for a long time. I learned how to hide in the woodwork  and not be seen. That was easier and safe.

Isn’t it interesting to see how the perception of a small child can create a belief that stays with them through their adult life?

Can you relate to judging yourself as not being good enough and comparing yourself to others?

Fast forward to the present:

I’ve spent the past 6 years growing my coaching/consulting practice and “being seen” in front of many groups.  I still get squeamish and nervous when I get in front of a crowd.  And yes, my voice cracks sometimes.

I have been working on healing those little wounds and changing my beliefs around being seen.

I have done some inner work with little Chrissy to let her know that its ok to been seen.  There is nothing to fear or be embarrassed about.

I let her know that what she has to say and share with the world, matters.

I let her know that she is learning and sometimes that means failing and trying again.

I let her know that she is loved and she doesn’t have anything to fear.

I’m the adult and I will be seen for both of us.

She is part of me, and as I’m healing this part of me, I can own my power and my grace to be seen.

Sometimes it is the little traumas that we don’t realize are getting in our way.

When your little one gets in the way of your success, it is time to take a look at who is really showing up in your life.

Ask yourself this question…….Is it your adult, or your little one, who is blocking your success? 

Here I am posing on the big stage at the eWomenNetwork Conference!

Here I am posing on the big stage at the eWomenNetwork Conference!

Fast forward to today:

I am being guided to make a bigger presence and bigger impact to share my message to bigger groups. I met an amazing speaker coach at the eWomenNetwork International Conference in August who is helping me strengthen my skills as a professional speaker and messenger.

I am standing in MY truth and sharing with the world my message about living consciously and creating more peace, love and equanimity in our lives.

I am standing in MY truth and teaching practical tools to women and men, about how to eliminate their self imposed suffering with worry, anxiety, fear and anger.

I am standing in MY truth and doing my own inner work and be the change I want to see in the world.

I am standing in MY truth to learn, grow and evolve as a professional coach, trainer AND speaker to share my message  with the world.

Can you relate to my story either as a child or an adult? Where are you hiding in your life?

I am here to be seen. And I see you.

With much love and gratitude,

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I am the one who chooses.

“Grace is perfect, even when my life isn’t.”  ~Deepak Chopra:

Manifesting Grace through Gratitude Meditation

Have you ever experienced a time when you felt like you were hit with one crisis after another?

As I consciously let go of more chaos, noise and clutter in my life, I am experiencing these “crises” differently.

While journaling in my morning pages last week, this poem came forward from me to write. I want to share it with you:

Life is filled with joys, sorrows, traumas and happiness. Each experience is in service for me to learn.

I am the one who chooses.

I choose how to experience it.

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I choose to act or react.

I choose to see the lesson or the story.

I choose joy or sorrow.

I choose love or fear.

I choose to see the truth, the right action, the healing lesson, the joy and the love.

I have the power of my own choice.

I am the one who chooses.

Since I wrote this, I have been challenged with a few “crises” and came back to the poem as a powerful reminder of the choices I had.

I hope it supports you when your life isn’t perfect.

With much love and gratitude,

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In the silence, they heard.

In September last year, a small group of courageous women joined me in the pines of Flagstaff to listen to the Whispers of their Soul.

They were stressed out, over worked busy professional women who knew that something was missing in their lives.

Business deadlineThey thought that working harder would be the answer.  It wasn’t.

They thought that making more money was the answer.  It wasn’t.

They thought that they didn’t have time for a retreat. They found the time.

In the silence, they heard.

They opened their eyes, minds and hearts and asked themselves these questions in the silence of the majestic forest:

Who am I?

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What does my soul want me to know?

What is in the way from me creating my desires?

What is my next step?

In the silence, they heard.

They were astonished with the profound messages they heard from the intelligence of their heart and soul.  They heard their truth from deep inside themselves.

In the sacredness of the container of this retreat, they were able to listen to the whispers of their soul.

They trusted these messages and knew that it was imperative to trust this sacred and wisdom filled part of themselves and to take action in their lives to bring the peace and happiness they so desired.

In the silence, they heard.

Each one of these women’s lives has completely transformed since this retreat. By listening to their soul, releasing their blocks, and taking they action steps they committed to.

“Awaken to the Whispers of Your Soul: A Women’s Mountain Retreat” was a life altering experience for me personally. It was an intimate, soul-revealing journey into the discovery of the riches we all hold within ourselves, riches that ofkaren mercereau 2ten remain hidden, buried beneath years of “life’s little traumas” and the immediacy of our work lives. I came away knowing that this is a journey I have just begun, ready to continue to explore.”

~ Karen Mercereau, Founder/Executive Director RN Patient Advocates, PLLC

Say YES to yourself and the sacredness of this magnificent retreat to listen to the whispers of your soul.

In the silence, you will hear. 

Come join me and a group of like-minded women in my mountain home, in the cool pines of Flagstaff Arizona, June 26, 27 & 28 for a life altering weekend to unplug from your busy life of “doing” and slow way down to listen.

2015-banner-awaken-mtn-retreatSpace is limited for this powerful retreat. Spots are filling quickly so get yours NOW so you can take advantage of the SUPER EARLY BIRD PRICING before  March 15!!!

If you have a desire to be one of these 6 magnificent women who are ready to slow down to listen to the whispers of their soul, call me today.

I don’t want you to miss out on this experience to listen to the whispers of your soul and transform your life.

Much love,

All Roads Lead Back to Self-Love

I spent this past month working with some amazing women, first at my Mountain Retreat in Flagstaff and secondly as a workshop facilitator at the 26th Annual YWCA Leadership Conference in Tucson.

The women at my retreat put aside 3 days to “Listen to the Whispers of their Soul” and every one of them came away with the awareness that every dream they had in their busy lives was missing one important piece.  Their deep and intimate love for themselves.

ALL ROADS LEAD BACK TO SELF-LOVE.

At the YWCA Leadership Conference, 400+ women honored themselves by committing a full day to learn how to design their own lives, do good business and IMG_1044 (2)create a smarter world. In my workshop I spoke to a standing room only crowd of women who wanted to know how to “Build themselves from the Inside Out”.

What they learned was that making self-honoring choices in their lives was the foundation for their self-mastery and self-love.

ALL ROADS LEAD BACK TO SELF-LOVE.

In my experience as a coach working with my clients, no matter what challenge they might be facing or journey they might be stepping into …all roads lead back to their self-love.

It could be the busy professional who doesn’t know how to slow down to make time for her self care. She is still hearing the old tape in her head that “it’s not good enough” so she keeps working harder and harder.

SELF-LOVE IS CHANGING THE WAY SHE SPEAKS TO HERSELF TO BE LOVING, KIND AND SUPPORTIVE, AND CREATING WHITE SPACE IN HER DAY FOR REJUVENATION.

It could be the Mom who has given her whole life for her family and continues to give, and she is exhausted and running on empty. And she is bitter and anger and her perception is that her family doesn’t appreciate all she does for them.

SELF-LOVE IS LEARNING TO SAY NO TO OTHERS IN A COMPLETE SENTENCE AND LETTING GO OF CODEPENDENT AND CARE-TAKING BEHAVIORS.

It could be the woman who doesn’t like the woman she sees in the mirror each day. She loathes to even look at herself. She judges her lookspositive-self-talk as not pretty enough, not thin enough, not smart enough, not enough, not enough etc.

SELF-LOVE IS SEEING HER BEAUTY DEEP INSIDE OF HERSELF, LOVING AND APPRECIATING HERSELF EXACTLY AS SHE IS IN HER OWN MAGNIFICENCE.

It could be the entrepreneur who is stepping into her true calling of serving others and she holds herself back because she has an old tape from her childhood that says, “Who do you think you are? You can’t do that!”

i-thought loving younger selfSELF-LOVE IS LOVING THAT YOUNG ONE INSIDE OF HER WHO KEPT HERSELF SMALL, AND LETTING HER KNOW THAT SHE IS BEAUTIFUL, SWEET, PURE AND INTEGRATING HER BACK INSIDE INSTEAD OF REJECTING HER.

I believe that Self-Love is the foundation for all well being and healing. I have experienced the lack of self-love myself. When I finally learned the baby steps of loving myself, I saw how strong I became from the inside out. This is the strength I brought to my world to create my life and career as I desired.

ALL ROADS TO HEALING AND WELL BEING LEAD BACK TO SELF-LOVE.

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The theme of the YWCA Leadership Conference was about being a changemaker. All of the women who attended where challenged by Kelly Fryer, the Executive Director of YWCA Tucson, to see where they can be a changemaker in their world. It really made me think about how I could be a changemaker.  Then I realized that I already am a changemaker.

My mission is to help people become more self-aware of their lives and to strengthen in their Self-Love.

Have you taken some sacred time to look at your life and evaluate how you love yourself?  It is necessary to your wholeness and well being in your life.  All roads lead back to self-love.

Much love,

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The rest of your life.

Who am I?calm

What do I desire?

What is in the way?

What do I want to create in my life?

How can I serve?

These are questions I asked myself when I found myself in the midst of my mid-life crisis…..which was really my mid-life awakening.

There was no crisis, only an awakening to my deepest truths of who I am and what I wanted in my life.

I didn’t even know that I could access a different part of myself that could support me in answering these questions.

I was divinely guided to a graduate program at the University of Santa Monica in Spiritual Psychology which blew me away when I first read about it.

My business coach at the time, Steve Chandler, had mentioned it but it was surely not on my radar. I wasn’t ready.

And when the student (me!) was ready, the teacher (USM!) appeared!

I stepped into my deepest fears about looking at my own life and said YES to the unknown. I said YES to USM.  I said YES to the next 2 years in answering the questions I listed above.

But my rational mind wanted to know…….

How is the program going to improve my job?

How will this program improve my personal life?

And then Dr. Ron Hulnick, President of USM, explained at the informational evening I attended in January 2007, what it would change and/or improve.

THE REST OF MY LIFE.

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Are you ready to change the rest of your life?

Are you ready to ask yourself these powerful questions?

Who am I?

What do I desire?

What is in the way?

What do I want to create?

How can I serve. 

These are the questions that will be asked to the participants at my Women’s Mountain Retreat.  Once they have quieted their minds and shifted to listen to the whispers of their souls.

Each woman will allow their soul to have a voice.

Are you ready to connect with that sacred wise part of yourself and ask? Come join me at my Mountain Retreat in Flagstaff September 12-14.

What will you be able to do with what you experience during this retreat?

THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.   

Awaken to the Whispers of Your Soul: A Woman’s Mountain Retreat September 12–14, 2014 in Flagstaff, Arizona

For all the details and registration for the retreat  CLICK HERE!!!

Just as a reminder, space is limited!  Only 4 spots left!!

If you believe this this retreat is right for you, call me today!

 

Much love and light,

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Your Comfort Zone. Are You Ready to Move Beyond?

Who in their right mind would want to be uncomfortable?  Isn’t comfort where you want to be all the time?  Knowing exactly what will happen in your life, doing the same thing, day in and day out…..now that’s comforting.  But is it really?

Being safe and comfortable can be important to your happiness, but when you live in your comfort zone ALL the time, you really don’t grow and have new experiences.

Do you do the SAME workout every week and are wondering why you are not getting any results?  Do you have the SAME arguments with your partner and nothing changes?  Do you question yourself if you are in the right job because you do the SAME thing every day and you don’t excited about the work you do?

It’s time to step out of your comfort zone if you want different results!

Most times, it is fear of the unknown that can hold you back. You know you might want something different, but you are afraid of what can happen if you change. What would happen if you stepped out of your comfort zone?  What would happen if you moved into something that is uncomfortable? What would it look like if you trusted and surrendered that you would be ok?

When you take action and move into the steps to where you want to be, it WILL be uncomfortable.  Trust and surrender.  This is the place where you grow and transform.

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Recently I came into an awareness about myself with my comfort zone and my cycling workouts.  I was really wishy washy with my workouts.  I didn’t like going anywhere other than my regular route.  I did NOT like it when my husband took a different route. I WAS UNCOMFORTABLE!

In my own self reflection of my commitments to myself, this was standing out to me as a place where I wanted different results and it was time for me to step into my fear and my uncomfortableness.

I made a commitment to myself to step into my fear.  This past weekend, instead of my usual easy 20 mile ride on the same route, I made a commitment to a different route that I had not been on before, and to complete a 40 mile route around my community.  As I stepped into my fear, I remembered my commitment to MYSELF and the changes I wanted. I surrendered to the unknown.

I rode the entire route with this message in my head (and my heart) and YES, I WAS UNCOMFORTABLE.  And I completed the 40 miles and found a new route with a different view of the city! 

It may have been uncomfortable at first, and I know the more I take this new route with my commitment to myself, that it will become more comfortable each time.  And when it becomes too comfortable, it will be time for a new route, with a new goal.

This experience reminds me of a quote I read last week from my beloved mentor and professor at the University of Santa Monica:

“The most comfortable place you could ever live is outside of your comfort zone, because it is the only place where you are going to find growth. It is the only place you are going to rise up and continue to lift into higher states of consciousness and move more and more into trust, into surrender.”  – Ron Hulnick

What is your experience with stepping into the uncomfortable in your life?  How did it feel?  I’d love to hear from you and how your experience was…or is!   Share your comments below!

Much love + light,