In the silence, I heard.

Four years ago, my left eye exploded. 

explosion

One day, I noticed strange white spots in my left eye and could not explain it.Little did I know, I had experienced a retinal vein occlusion (yes look it up!)

People that have this are either old or in really poor health. I was neither.

After seeking the advise of a retina specialist, I quickly moved into a series of injections to shrink the swelling on the back of my eye. But it wasn’t fixing it or healing it.

Why was this happening to me? 

My life was fantastic at the time.  I had just completed my graduate studies in Spiritual Psychology and gotten married all within a few months of this happening.

What was my eye trying to tell me?

I made a conscious decision on Easter weekend to totally unplug and listen to my heart, my soul AND my eye.  What was it about my vision?  What was it about pressure?  Why can’t I see clearly?

In the silence, I heard. silence

It was time for me to step into my vision for myself and move into my consulting business full time.  My fear held me back.  I was afraid to leave my well paid job at my family business.

In the silence, I heard.

It was time for me to step into the unknown and fly. It was time for me to leave my family business.  It was time. That was the message I heard.

In the silence, I heard.

It took the gracefulness of silence for me to hear the whispers of what my heart, my soul and my eye wanted me to know.

Now, I want to share with you the experience of slowing down enough to listen. When you slow down, you too can hear the whispers of your soul.

Would you like to join me in the pines of Flagstaff, Arizona for a sacred Women’s Retreat in September?

Are you ready to listen to the whispers of your soul?

Come join me and a group of like-minded women in my mountain home, in the cool pines of Flagstaff Arizona, September 12, 13 & 14 for an all-inclusive weekend to unplug from your busy life of “doing” and slow way down to listen.

Awaken to the Whispers of Your Soul: A Woman’s Mountain Retreat September 12–14, 2014 in Flagstaff, ArizonaSome of our activities will include serene meditation walks in the Ponderosa Pine forest right behind my home.  You will be entering a sacred container of peace, tranquility and space to connect with your deep inner wisdom with 8 other magnificent women.

As you slow down, you will hear the whispers of your soul.

For all the details and registration for the retreat  CLICK HERE!!!

 

Just as a reminder, space is limited for this transformational retreat!

If you believe this this retreat is right for you, call me today!

 
Much love and light,
  
 

Your Power: Authentic or Egoic?

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”
~Lao-Tzu~

When do you feel powerful?  When you feel confident and in your integrity?  Or when you feel smarter, better and “above” someone else?

I was part of a table top discussion with some professional women this week and we were asked, “when do you feel powerful?”   It was very insightful to hear the different perspectives of what the word meant to them.

Most of these ladies shared that they felt empowered when they were in their integrity, knowledge, mastery, authentic self and being of service to help others.

Their power came from within.

When they made honoring choices that aligned with their value system, they became powerful within themselves.  They also strengthened their inner power when:

  • When they didn’t accept poor behavior from others.
  • When they said ‘no’ to things that didn’t serve them.
  • When they made choices that weren’t popular, but they were the right thing to do.

Their power, integrity and self-respect were obvious to others.

However it was interesting that some ladies were turned off by the word “powerful” and felt negative emotions towards the word.  Not knowing their past experiences, perhaps they had (or still have) someone in their life who has power over them.  Everyone’s perceptions are different and come from their past experiences and beliefs systems.

It’s easy to give your power up to someone else.  When you own your power, no one can take it from you.  That is true authentic power, not egoic power.

About ten years ago, I didn’t fully understand my own personal power.  Since then, after years of conscious reflection and healing, I can see clearly how I used to give up my power.  Now I know the difference and own my inner power.  My life’s lessons have helped me learn this.  You too, can reflect and make different choices in your life about your power.

Take a look at your life.  Do you live your life aligned with your value system?  Do you know your value system?  Do you strive to live in your integrity every day?  When do you feel powerful or empowered?  

I would love to hear from you in the comment section below about when you feel powerful or empowered.  Easy, simple.  I’d love to know. Thanks for sharing!

Much love and light,

 

Are you Paying Attention to Signs and Synchronicities?

Do you sometimes wonder if God is trying to send you messages?  Do things happen in your life and you wonder if you are supposed to pay attention to a deeper meaning of what’s going on right in front of you?

Time to pay attention.

When you become more conscious of your life, through intentions or reflections, you will see how the divine messages come to you.  Conscious awareness to the signs and synchronicities that show up in your life can be an eye opener and not just a coincidence.

It took me while, and when I began to pay attention, I was amazed.

My personal journey of conscious awareness began about seven years ago when I was in the midst of what I call my mid-life reflection.  I took a look at my life and asked myself if I was happy.  I could see the chaos and dysfunction in me and around me.  I stopped blaming others for my unhappiness, took responsibility for it and dove head first into the discovery and healing of me.

As soon as I made the shift to conscious awareness, I could finally see my divine path of happiness right in front of me.

I paid attention to my energy and how I felt in the presence of other people.  I learned to let go of those relationships that drained my energy.  I was then guided to more positive and loving relationships in my personal and professional life.  Those relationships are the ones that fueled my positive energy.

When I would ask God for a sign to guide me, it would be shown.  Not necessarily in my timing, but in divine timing. 

This was a sign given to me by a fellow USM student. She picked me out of the crowd and gave it to me. It surely was an obvious sign for me!

I had to be patient and trust that I would be guided.  Sometimes the sign would clearly indicate where I was NOT supposed to be.  Then I would change paths instead of trying to force my will on something that was not meant to be.

When you follow the signs that bring you to your divine path, life actually becomes more peaceful and joyful.

When you take the time to reflect on your life, pay close attention to what manifests in your life.  Here are my simple take away tips for you to follow your divine path:

1.      Take quiet time to pray and meditate each morning and set your intentions for your day, not your to-do list, but intentions of how you want to be.

2.      Ask God (or whatever your higher power might be) to show you signs of your divine path.

3.      At the end of each day, take time to reflect and review what messages you may have been shown.

4.      Let go of any negative attitudes, actions and behaviors that no longer serve you or your path.

5.      Acknowledge your gratitude for all the goodness and lessons in your life.

I challenge you to move into these action steps to discover more about your divine path. Begin today!

If you have already experienced the divinity of signs and synchronicities in your life, I’d LOVE to hear about them!  Share here in the comment section below.  If you love this post and think that it would be helpful to your peeps, please share it.  Enjoy your journey!!

 

Much love and light,

A Success Story: The Personal Evolution of a Friend

When the student is ready, the teacher appears.  I had the honor of watching her evolve, month by month.  Embracing each new lesson she had the courage to take an honest look inside herself.  And she chose to change.

I would not have guessed that this charming woman 20 years my senior would be such a good friend when I met her 19 years ago. She was closer to my Mom’s age and I even introduced them thinking they would have more in common.  But much to my surprise, my friend felt more connected to me and my young energy than my Mom.  That was when I confirmed that my friend Carolyn was truly a young spirit deep inside.

We had connected throughout the years and she even began attending the earliest version of my self improvement workshops in 2005.  Carolyn was open to learning and growing, but I could also see that she was still feeling the pain of some emotional trauma a few years before.  And she was there to learn and heal.

However, I could see the woundedness deep within her.  Her trauma was deep and lasting. Yet as time had passed her anger and upset were not as present, but I could see there were still some lingering emotions.

As she began attending my Heartfelt Learning Workshops in January 2011, she was right there to support a new area of my consulting practice.  But this was different.  These workshops presented Carolyn with material that made her think about herself.  She spent quality time looking inside herself and began to truly connect with the group who attended each month.

But what was different for Carolyn is that she was embracing the learning material each and every month.  She took the information to heart.  She spent the time between sessions observing herself and her behavior.  SHE TOOK THE MATERIAL SERIOUSLY!! 

She would be the first one to share her experiences from the prior month and had more questions.  She was discovering more about her triggers and upsets, and more importantly, how to process them and release them.  She embraced the lessons on forgiveness for herself and others.  She reframed old messages and beliefs into beautiful affirmations that supported her inner growth.

Each month she was releasing old emotional baggage that no longer served her.  She was making room for powerful positive energy to come into her life.  Every time I saw her, she was lighter and brighter.  She was using all the life skills tools she was learning and now they were a part of her everyday life.  She was evolving right before my eyes.  For someone who already had so much fun, lively spirit, others around her could see more sparkle and glow emanating from her.

From my observations of my dear friend, here are the steps she took to create her success in her personal evolution:

1.  She made a commitment to the learning.

2.  She took the quiet time to reflect on her thoughts, actions and behaviors.

3.  She lived the lessons and made them part of her everyday life.  She practiced the tools and used the resources

4.  She moved to a place of vulnerability with the group and felt safe enough to share, knowing that she would be loved and not judged.

4.  She shared (and continues to share) her new healthy way of being with her friends, family and clients as well.

5.  She loved (and continues to love) herself enough to invest the time in learning, healing and growing.

My friend Carolyn is truly an evolved woman and I have had the honor and privilege to witness her transformation.  She now shares herself differently with the world.  She sees the beauty and light inside herself and gives others permission to shine their light as well!

Love ya Mojo!!

 

How Do You SEE the World – Through Positive or Negative Glasses?

“The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.”  ~ Marcus Antonius AD 86-161

Do you ever find yourself thinking negative thought patterns and become overwhelmed with the negative “what if”?  Are you the type of person who always sees what is wrong with a situation….instead of what is right?

I have recently experienced a few individuals who see the world with such a perspective.  What I believe is that they are very unconscious of their behavior and it has just become part of how they live their lives.  And then they wonder why they have sickness and illness.  And then they wonder why their friends and family avoid spending time with them.  They wonder why this world is so bad and awful. You may not experience these feeling yourself, but you might know someone just like that.

Our thoughts are very powerful and can take us spiraling down….or up.  You have the choice in any moment of how you think, which translates to how your feel, then how you act.  You can shift your thoughts in any moment.  You can look for the good in any circumstance. You have the power to live your life from a positive perspective.  Here are just a few suggestions to help you, or someone in your life, make the shift:

1.  Live in the present moment.  When you dwell on the negativity of the past or future, you miss out on the beauty of your life right in front of you.

2.  Consciously look for what is good in any situation.  I promise you, if you look for the good, you will find it.  Even if it a lesson to be learned.

3.  Have gratitude for the good and say it out loud.  When you look for the good and show gratitude for it, and then acknowledge it out loud, you move to a positive place within your consciousness.

4.  Eliminate negativity from your life.  If the news upsets you, take a break from it.  If you have a negative person in your life, limit your time with them.  Look to see what brings negativity in your life and eliminate it.

5.  Bring more positive energy into your life.  What ever brings you joy and happiness, consciously do more of it.  Fill your life with the things that fuel your energy and you will find an automatic shift in your way of thinking.

6.  If you catch yourself moving into negativity, shift to the positive quickly.  The more you experience positivity in your life, you will know when something shifts back negatively.  As soon as you notice, move into utilizing these steps to bring you back to a positive place.

This life we live is meant to be joy filled, not joy-less.  By consciously shifting your thoughts, actions and behaviors to be more positive, you will find that joy that you so deserve.  We all deserve it!

Dealing with Change… When it’s time to Surrender & Trust

Funny how life brings us change.  Sometimes we are prepared for it and sometimes we are not. When we are not prepared for it, we can feel the pain in the change.  However we can flow with the change and feel different as we move through it.

I have watched a few friends of mine recently deal with losing their homes or businesses due to the challenging economy.  They saw the change early on and tried many different avenues to keep what they have worked hard to build up for so many years.  They grieved the change during the process.  So when it was time to let go…..to surrender….to trust….they moved through the process with much more grace.  No kicking, screaming and blaming.  Sad feelings…yes…grief for the change…yes…but with the trust that they would be ok.

In your life, when do you know its time to surrender and not fight the change?  How can you trust that all will be well when it does not feel like it?  Here are a few tips to help you through times of change and uncertainty:

1. Be open to the change.  Stop trying to control the outcome.  Let go and allow the change.  The change may be needed and it is difficult for you to see that while you are in the midst of it.

2. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, grieve the change.  Feel the sadness, cry if it comes up.  When you let feelings out, you don’t need to repress them and hold them in your physical body.  Go through all stages of grief…its important for your future well being.

3. Accept the situation and yourself exactly where you are. Be in the present moment with your life.  Accept what is and move forward.  Don’t beat yourself up!

4. Surrender to your higher power. Challenging as this may seem, it is a key aspect in dealing with change to trust your higher power, however you define that.  God, Source, the Universe…what ever fits for you.

5. Visualize yourself after you have moved through the change. Picture yourself in your mind how you want to be after the change.  It will give you a goal to achieve of how you want your life to be.

6. Trust that all will be well. This is an activity of the heart and soul.  As you surrender to your higher power, know that there are sources taking care of you in your spiritual realm.

7. Consciously create positive thoughts, beliefs and actions about the change. Shift your cognitive processes to the positive and you will feel the difference.  When you feel the negativity creeping in, quickly change it and keep the positivity up!

8. Move with the ebb and flow of change with grace and ease. When you utilize these skills with any type of change, you move with the change like a wave.  You eliminate any struggle and find yourself in a more proactive, less reactive place in your life.

Learning to deal with change is a key tool in your own personal growth and evolvement. Understanding change and how to move through it can only improve the quality of your life.  We live in ever changing times now and these skills can assist you in your personal and professional life.  Remember them, practice them, and you can feel more peace and happiness as you embrace change!

Owning Your Personal Power

Just the thought of the word “power” can bring many different perceptions to your mind.  To one person, it can mean energy, force, action, strength and drive.  To another person it can be viewed from a victim standpoint as dominance, ego, rule, authority or control.  It all depends upon how your perception of the world is viewed.

However, you have your own personal power that resides within you.  You also have the responsibility of how YOU show up in the world.  Do you have victim mentality or ownership mentality?  Are you reactive to what happens in your life?  Or are you proactive and own your power.

Your personal power can be tapped in to by looking inside yourself, not outside.  When you own your power, you can create your life how you want it.  No longer do you need to give your power to others or expect them to give it to you.  Here are some simple tips about how to activate your power and use it responsibly, wisely and lovingly.

1.  Activate you energy within you.  You can do this by focusing your thoughts and energy on your Third Chakra, in your Solar Plexus area (stomach, upper intestines, pancreas, liver area).  This is the area of your energy data bank that focuses on self worth, self esteem, self appreciation and how you show up in the world.

2.  Be aware of your power of choice.   In every moment you have choices of how you will be.  Someone asks you to do something that violates you personal values, what do you do?  State your self honoring choice out loud and allow it to activate within your consciousness.  Remember, ‘yes’ or ‘no’ can be a complete sentence!

3.  Love yourself, inside and out.  Use the power of your self love to make honoring choices in your life.  Don’t expect others to love you if you don’t love yourself first.  Loving yourself is about making self honoring choices every day in your life for your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well being.

4.  Speak your truth.  When you are in tune with the wisdom and power of your heart and gut, you will know what your truth is.  Don’t be afraid to speak up.   It may be difficult for others to hear your truth, but it is YOUR truth.  Make sure you honor that.  Use affirmations to speak your truth to yourself.  Tell yourself positive things about yourself and how you want your life to be.

5.  Connect with the power of your Spirit.  Having faith that there is a power greater than you can bring you to a place of loving confidence that you are not alone in this life.  Allowing the power of your Spirit within you to guide you, can assist you in seeing the Divine in you and the world around you.

Practicing these steps can be very empowering, enlightening and frightening at the same time.  If you are not used to using your personal power, take small baby steps.  You will see that when you are mindful about your personal power, you show up differently in the world.  And remember, it all begins from within.

The Power of Intentional Living

You may not realize how powerful your thoughts and ideas are within your world.  Every thought that you have in your brain sends a message to yourself about your reality and moves into your consciousness.  It becomes your reality, positive or negative.

So what would it look like if you have positive thoughts and direction about what you want your life to be like?  This is intention.  Webster’s Dictionary defines “intention” as, “A determination to act in a certain way.”  Intention allows you to focus your attention on what you want to create.

Change your thoughts, energy and actions towards your intention.  This is when you can utilize the power within you. Your personal power, not your ego power.  This is the power that comes from deep within your heart and soul.  When you set your intentions of how you want to be and what you want in your life, you create the blueprint.  Intentions…

…are your personal power.

…are your ownership of your life.

…are your commitment.

…allow you to see the vision.

…precede and inspire vision.

…live between potential and action.

In addition to thinking about what you want, you can activate more energy when you write your intentions down with pen and paper.  Visualize yourself in that space of your intentions.  See yourself moving through it.  How does it feel in your visualization?   Make it come alive within your consciousness.   The more senses you use during these activities just increases the positive energy.  When you are doing these activities you are telling the Universe what you desire and see in your future.

Only then, is the challenging step with intentions.  You must surrender your ego attachment to it and release it to the Universe. If it is in your highest good to manifest, it will show up in your life.  Pay attention to the signs and synchronicities around you.  This is when you realize that you are not alone and your intentions are co-created with Spirit.  Trust and allow Spirit to move through you.

Through the power of intentions, you have the ability to create the life you truly desire.

Honor and Integrity Begin from Within

“To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.”  ~William Shakespeare,

Have you ever been in a situation where you knew deep in your heart you should have said “no” to something, but you said “yes” anyway?

Recently I have been tested about being true to myself and the work I do.  A few years ago when I began my consulting practice, I had someone ask me to propose on a multitude of training programs.  As I was creating the material for the proposal, I had this feeling in my heart that was not comfortable.  Some topics I was an expert in and some I clearly was not. However, I was motivated to grow my business, I proposed it anyway.  In the end, I was not awarded the contract.  That was a huge lesson in listening to my heart.  A huge lesson in compromising myself for the almighty dollar.

As time went on and my practice grew, I became clearer and clearer about what my specialties are.  These are the areas where I am in my golden space and where I shine.  I know it in my heart and I feel it every time I meet with someone for a coaching session or stand in front of a large group to facilitate training.

I’ve had to ask myself…do I honor myself by listening to my inner voice and trust my gut?  Do I keep my honor code with myself?   Do I love and honor myself enough to turn away work if I won’t be authentic in it?  It’s taken me time (remember, I’m still human!) but the answers are yes to all these question.  I get to the yes a whole lot faster when I remember my honor code with myself.  As I’ve evolved in the wisdom of my life, I know that before I can have honor or integrity with others, I must have it for myself.

Have you spent reflective time to ask yourself……do I listen to my inner voice?  Do I trust my gut to tell me when something doesn’t “feel” right?  Do I make choices in my life that honor my Self?  Do I keep my word with myself?  Pay close attention next time you are given an opportunity to make an honoring choice for yourself.  You will truly feel the difference when you come from that deep place inside that is authentically you.