What the Babies Taught me About Leadership

(Cuteness alert!) Have you ever learned a life lesson from someone you least expected to?

I have spent the past three months learning lessons from my beautiful twin granddaughters, Morgan and Natalie, who were born on December 15, 2016.

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I was blessed to have my daughter and her newborns stay with me and my husband in our Tucson home. She wanted to be near family as she learned to navigate life with her new babies for the first 3 months of their lives.

Was life in our home crazy? 

Yes, especially night time feedings. She would take one baby and I would take the other…multiple times a night.

Yikes….talk about sleep deprivation!  

I learned so much about my self leadership while caring for these adorable babies.

Who would have thought that they would teach me?

This was the most rewarding and exhausting experience AND I feel so blessed that I could spend this most important time with all of them.

IMG_4217Here are the self leadership lessons these beautiful angels taught me:

1.  BE PRESENT IN THE MOMENT.  These little ones are demanding and if I wasn’t present in my attention and my loving, they could feel it. One day I was trying to check emails on my phone, which was on my leg, while feeding Morgan.

She wanted my attention and in her beautiful innocence, kicked my phone off my leg sending it crashing to the tile floor….cracking the screen….ouch!  I heard you Morgan, loud and clear….pay attention when I’m feeding you!

2. MY SELF-CARE IS A MUST. I learned this quickly because sleep deprivation affects EVERYTHING. These babies needed 24/7 care, so we had to do what we could when they were sleeping, which wasn’t always at the same time. I ended up with a 3 week cold that wouldn’t go away. My immune system was taxed!

Both my daughter and I had to make sure that we each had a nap during the day.

My morning meditation practice was never the same. Some days I was rocking a baby to sleep while listening to my meditation recording.  It was even a challenge to get out and take a walk in the neighborhood just to move my body.

I needed to squeeze my self-care activities into the day so that I could fill my cup and continue to give to them. Some days were better than others.

3.  DO THE MOST IMPORTANT THING RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME.  This entire experience of co-caring for the babies was THE most important thing. I put all my networking meetings aside. I was VERY select about the clients I did business with during this time.

In the last month of their stay, I found myself focusing on my quality time with the babies. I would let them nap on me instead of rushing to get dishes or laundry done.  I would play on the floor with them instead rushing to check my email or social media.

4. LOVE WITH ALL MY HEART.  Babies are just bundles of love. They exude love, innocence and purity and you can see it in their eyes. All they want is love, security and to be cared for.

Isn’t that what you and I want today as adults….love, security and to be cared for? Looking into their eyes every day cracked my heart wide open AND it made me remember my own love, innocence and purity.

Loving them opened me up to even more loving of myself. Caring for them was an expression of love that I felt deep within my Soul.

Each day I cared for them, these lessons were brought in front of me and allowed me to make honoring choices for myself.IMG_0146

I see how easy it can be for new parents to forget about themselves and give themselves over to the babies or whomever someone might be caring for.

Have you ever forgotten about yourself when you get wrapped up in caring for someone or even a big project at work?

Each one of these lessons were brought to my attention at the perfect time. I didn’t always make the best choice at first, and that is where my learning came in.

The babies were just the beautiful experience for me to learn more about myself and how I lead my life. (more cuteness below!)

I invite you to look in your life right now and see where an experience is in front of you to learn some lessons. It may be disguised as exhaustion, suffering or lack of something.

Look deeper into the situation and see where you can make honoring choices in your life that support your total well being.

As always, if you need some support with what you discover, give me a call as I would love to support you in living your best life!

Much love,

 

 

 

 

PS….here is more cuteness of Morgan and Natalie to drink up!
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If you change nothing, then nothing will change.

On November 3rd I had the honor of facilitating a workshop at the YWCA Southern Arizona 27th Annual Leadership Conference.

It was such a powerful day inspiration, transformation and change opportunities for all the women who attended.sold out room YWCA

My workshop was about Emotional Intelligence at Work and I had room filled to capacity (and a few others snuck in and stood in the back of the room) with 87 women.

It was an awesome experience for me to fill a room!

What I heard from so many of these women was;

“I know I need to work on strengthening myself.”
“I know I need to work on my Emotional Intelligence skills.”
“I am always filled with anxiety and stress.”
“I want to learn how to connect with others better.”

Yet when I invited these women to a deeper conversation to support them, their fear kicked in and said, “no, not now.”

If not now, then when? If you change nothing, then nothing will change.

I know that it is not easy to take an honest look at your life. I know because I avoided taking a look at my life for a long time. In my busyaholic life, I didn’t have time to look at my life.

I denied that anything was wrong with me…..I was happy with my life……really, I was was happy with my life….really, every thing as ok. (You couldn’t see my pain inside from my mask on the outside!)

I was afraid of the truth, I knew it would hurt.

I was afraid of changing, I feared the unknown.

I was afraid of disappointing others, I didn’t want to hurt anyone.

Yet I do know that when I finally took an honest long look at my life, without judgement, I could see what wasn’t working. I could see what behaviors I needed to change. I could see that if I continued to deny my truth and my voice, than nothing would change.

If not now, then when? If you change nothing, then nothing will change.

If you know that some areas in your life need your attention, now is the time.  Not 10 years from now when your suffering has doubled (I’ve done that too!).

Today I live a radiant life.

I took 100% responsibility for my happiness and took the steps to create the life and work of my dreams. It took one step, and then another, and then another.

It begins with a commitment to a better life and the change inside that creates that.

Are you ready to stop thinking about change and ready to take action?

Is it time for you to step into your dream life?

NOW IS THE TIME.

Come join me to begin your New Year of 2016.
YOUR YEAR OF CHANGE!
I want to invite you say YES to yourself and join me at:

RADIANT LIVING INTENSIVE

Building Your Success Roadmap for 2016

Saturday January 23, 2016

Skyline Country Club, Tucson Arizona

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Registration begins next week, so get your name on the pre-registration list now!

Email me at christine@heartfeltworkforce.com 

I look forward to connecting with you and holding the sacred space for you to create your success roadmap for 2016!

Here’s to a radiant YOU in the New Year!

Much love and gratitude,

 

5 Easy Peasy Steps to Stop Your Stinking Thinking: For Good!

Do you every find yourself weighted down with the doomsday, “What ifs?”  Do your negative thoughts escalate and you find yourself in a space that is totally awful and really….stinking? Does it stop you dead in your tracks of any positive movement in your life?  It has been a reality for me (in the past) and I would find myself overwhelmed and then my brain would run in upset overdrive!

Not a good feeling.

I have great news for you if you’ve had this happen to you. You can change your thoughts….and change your life!  Dr. Wayne Dyer said it best.  You have the power to recognize what your brain is doing to you, stop and shift your thoughts from self defeating to become self empowering.

It is your choice and really pretty easy once you are conscious of your attitude, actions and behaviors to make the shift.  Here are the easy steps you can follow to guide you to find freedom from the suffering of stinking thinking:

1.  Recognize that your mind is in the negative mode.

Stop and acknowledge where you are in the present moment in your mind, body and heart.  Feel what the negative pattern is doing to you and where it can take you.

2.  Relax and take some cleansing breaths.

Close your eyes and just breathe.  Allow yourself to take some deep cleansing breaths.  Visualize the negative thought pattern leaving you when you exhale.

3.  Let go of the negative thought and release it from your consciousness.

Then breathe in the LIGHT when you inhale.  Cleanse your consciousness with the light.  Allow yourself to release the thought patterns with the power of your breath.

4.  Create a loving and supportive thought and message to yourself.

Take the negative thought and shift it 180 degrees the other way.  If the thought is, “Those idiots in traffic piss me off! They are so stupid!”  Change your thought to, “I don’t know what is happening in the life of those motorists, and I won’t give up my energy to them.  I will release them from thoughts and support myself with positive loving thoughts.  I will drive in traffic with grace and ease”

5.  Keep repeating the new loving, supportive thought as often as needed.

Whatever your new thought shift message is, keep repeating it to yourself.  As you keep saying it (even if you don’t believe it at first!) it gains more power and energy in your consciousness.  Your old thought pattern will dissolve itself…..for GOOD!

HERE IS THEY KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS….. You have to WANT to change your stinking thinking…for your benefit.  Not for your spouse, boss, parents or anyone for that matter.  YOU have to WANT the change in your life.

Use these steps the next time you feel the negative nudging coming on.  The more you practice these steps and WANT the change; you will see and feel a world of difference the level of peace in happiness in your life.

I’d love to hear from you about what helps you when you aren’t feeling so positive.  List them in the comments below to share.  If you felt that these steps are valuable, please share them with your community on any of the buttons below! Thanks!

Much love + light,

Getting Things Done: Vision + Action = Completion

Do you have a creative project inside you waiting to be born?  Or perhaps you have a difficult phone call to make?

Either of these situations, one positive and one negative, may be weighing on your mind and heart.  Both situations can use your valuable energy. Is that where you really want to spend your energy….in the “not done yet” or “I’ll get to it later” pile in your head? So here is my simple advice regarding getting things done……..

JUST DO IT!!!

Nike says it best, just do it.

Don’t ponder or procrastinate any more.

Move into action.

Move it to the top of your list.

Just do it.

See yourself already there.

If you have a project or dream you are visioning, see yourself already there.  Picture it complete in your mind’s eye.  Feel the excitement inside you, the satisfaction and joy of completion.  Now reverse engineer and work your steps backwards.  Break it into small doable steps and create your action plan. You may not have everything figured out yet, that’s OK, just TAKE THAT FIRST STEP.

I love the Fire Starter Sessions!

I did this exercise a few weeks ago when I was reading, The Fire Starter Sessions by Danielle LaPorte.  I had a creative project I had been dreaming about for the last 6 months, but kept it as a dream because I hadn’t move it into action.  Then I MOVED into action after reading Danielle’s book, and the project just took off!! (P.S. – you will see the end result in a few months!)

Try these steps even with the tough stuff.

If your to-do is challenging like facing a difficult relative or employee, again vision yourself in a respectful conversation that keeps all parties above board. Set your intention of how you want the conversation to be.  And then….JUST DO IT.

Yep, I too had that dreaded phone call to make. What was I so afraid of?  Why was I holding back?  I used the same process of visioning it positive, and that’s exactly how it showed up. What a relief for both of us as the wall came down.

Just take that first step.

Taking the first step and breaking through your fears of beginning is all you need to do, and then…take the next step…and the next step….you get it.  Every step gets you closer to completion and the sense of accomplishment and the joy it will bring you.

OK, now it’s your turn. I’d love to have you share how you took a dream (or challenge) and moved it into action. What steps did you take that moved you forward?  And if you felt like this blog was valuable to you, please share it with your peeps with the buttons below!

Dealing with Airtime Hogs: Tips for Better Communication With Non Listeners

During my workshop this past weekend, I had questions about how to have a meaningful conversation with those that talk non-stop.  One woman, Kathy, cleverly referred to them as “airtime hogs” because that is, in fact, what they do!

You can’t get a get a WORD in edgewise!

Here are some valuable tips to help you have a healthy dialog (yes, that means 2 people!) with those who may not even realize how they can overwhelm a conversation.

 

Step 1 – As the conversation begins, LET THEM KNOW that you really want to understand them and you may reflect back information, just to make sure you got it right.

Step 2FOCUS your attention on the content of what they are saying. Listen for the deeper meaning of what they are saying.

Step 3 – REPEAT what they have shared in segment as the conversation moves along.  Allow them to create forced pauses in the dialog.

Step 4 – FIND A GOLDEN NUGGET in what they are saying and PRAISE them.  We can all use some affirmation!

Own your personal power (NOT ego!) as you converse.  When you can take an active role in directing the conversation, AND LISTEN, you will surely see the difference.  You be the role model of open and meaningful conversations!

And for those of YOU WHO ARE AIRTIME HOGS……

…..learn to stop and listen to the the people you are in a conversation with.  You can acknowledge your behavior and change yourself in YOUR NEXT CONVERSATION!!

I hope you have found these suggestions to be valuable and I would LOVE to hear from you!! Leave a comment below…and share it…let me know what you think!

 

Messages My Parents Didn’t Tell Me…….Creating a Belief From Watching Them

Your parents and authority figures had a powerful impact on your life and how your “Life Laws” were created.  Their impact didn’t even have to be words.  Your belief system and values may have been created by just watching your parent’s behavior… good or bad.

I had the privilege of facilitating a workshop this weekend about eliminating old messages and beliefs that can hold you back from living the life of your dreams. I was able to witness some deep reflection, awareness and healing among the participants. Each of them shared about an old message, some that were outdated and some that were so deeply ingrained in their psyche, they didn’t know if they could change it.

But the most powerful moment was when one of the participants shared how blessed her life has been because the message her mother told her, out loud and with her actions, was that she could be anything she wanted in her life.  She had a positive affirming mother, despite the challenges they went through in life.  Her mother told her good things about herself and demonstrated positive actions in her own life.   To see how successful this woman is today made sense.  She knew as a young child that she was loved, worthy and capable of anything she wanted in life.

Not everyone grew up that way, but you have the power to change those old messages or beliefs to be more affirming, loving and supportive in your life.  Simple messages like:

“I am worthy”

“I am lovable”

“I am beautiful inside and out”

“I deserve good things in my life”

“I live in gratitude and abundance”

“I deserve happiness in my life”

“I am enough”

You can take an old message, transmute it to a positive one and then create a lovely affirmation that supports your growth and upliftment.  Loving yourself with positive messages is food for your heart and soul.

What are your messages or beliefs?  What do you tell yourself?  Is it positive or negative?  Are you open and willing to change these messages if they no longer serve you?  Only you can give yourself the gift of self love, self worth and self honor.  Give yourself that gift today!

 

When Holiday Family Traditions Change

Here is a picture of my kids with their cousins at Christmas. Despite changes in our family, they still embrace new traditions and connections with each other.

Here is a picture of my kids with their cousins at Christmas. Despite changes in our family, they still embrace new traditions and connections with each other.

The Holidays are upon us and we are supposed to be joyful, right?  What happens when your family changes and your traditions change?  It can be upsetting indeed to not do the same things you have done for years.  Or does it have to be upsetting?  We have a choice about being upset or sad….or to find the joy in creating new traditions.

Families change with marriages, divorce and death of our loved ones.   I know how difficult it was for me when I went through a divorce years ago and my kids were not with me for every celebration.  But I respected the fact that a change was happening and I created new traditions.

Now I have the addition of my loving husband and his kids to add to my new family traditions.  We embrace change and just enjoy whomever we are with and have loving memories of our past traditions.

Here are a few steps to help during the holidays if you are faced with changing your family traditions:

1. Treasure your memories of your past.   Keep them close in your heart for they were a part of your happiness at a different time in your life.

2. Select a new day of celebration.  It does not have to be on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day.  Select a few days before or a few days after the actual holiday and make it your own.

3. Embrace change.  Know that our lives are ever evolving and change is imminent.

4. Be in the moment and find the joy in it.  When you shift your way of thinking and look for the glimmers of joy, you will surely find them.

5. Be grateful for where you are in your life right now.   You might be in the middle of a divorce or grieving the death of a loved one, but know your are human and there are lessons to be learned in every challenging experience.

We are meant to connect to others and it seems especially fitting during the holidays.  As we celebrate together, our heart connections become deeper.  Allow yourself to flow with what ever change you might be experiencing.  Reach out to others for support.  Create your new traditions as you and your life evolve.

Much love,

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Heartfelt Workforce presents a series of Inner-Self Development sessions offered to assist you in learning to embrace or strengthen the power within you, which in turn can enhance your relationships and connections with your Self and others.

Listening With Your Heart ~ Part 1  –   Wednesday, January 19, 2011

  • Learn to listen with respect, care and compassion.
  • Engage more fully in conversations by understanding deeper meanings.
  • Learn to truly hear what others are saying.

Listening With Your Heart ~ Part 2  –  Wednesday, February 2, 2011

  • Continue utilizing the skills learned in Part 1.
  • Create a deeper connection as a listener by understanding the importance of asking open-ended questions as a response to honoring another’s flow of information
  • Affirm others by looking for the good in them and acknowledging them

Loving and Honoring Your SELF – Wednesday, February 16, 2011

  • Through effectively designed exercises, you will:
    • Learn to love and care for your Inner SELF like you never have before.
    • Find balance in all parts of your life by nurturing your whole SELF.
    • Learn to find the love in your heart for your SELF .

The Healing Power of Self Forgiveness – Wednesday, March 2, 2011

  • Learn the deep healing power of forgiveness for yourself and others.
  • Embrace the process of releasing judgments about yourself and others.
  • Release anger and resentment to make room to feel the peace inside of you.

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4:00 pm to 5:30 pm

Your investment is $30 per session or $99 for the entire series.  All registrations are prepaid. Bring a friend or loved one to share in the learning.

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